Over the next few days, I will be sharing some relationship stories (some happy, others sad) and I hope we learn one or two things from them that will help our relationships and marriages. This story was inspired by a friend on Whatsapp.

“After 21 years of Marriage, my Wife wanted me to take another woman out to dinner and a movie. She said I Love you but I know this other woman loves you too and would love to spend some time with You. Was this a set up?  I thought to myself !!!!! But I eventually found out that the other woman that my wife wanted me to take out was my 80+ year old MOTHER who has been a Widow for 19 years, but the demands of my work and my three children had made it impossible to visit her only occasionally.

That night I called to Invite her to go out for dinner and a movie.

‘What’s wrong, are you well,’ she asked?

My mother is the type of woman who suspects that a late night call or a surprise Invitation is a sign of bad news.

‘I thought that it would be pleasant to be with you,’ I responded. ‘Just the two of us’

She thought about it for a moment, and then said, ‘I would like that very much.’

That Friday after work, as I drove over to pick her up, I was a bit nervous. When I arrived at her house, I noticed that she too seemed to be nervous about our date. She waited in the door with her shawl on. She had set her hair and was wearing the dress that she had worn to celebrate her last wedding anniversary.

She smiled from a face that was as radiant as an angel’s. ‘I told my friends that I was going to go out with my son, and they were impressed, ‘. She said, as she got into the car. ‘They can’t wait to hear about our meeting’. We went to a restaurant that, although not elegant, was very nice and cozy.

My mother took my arm as if she were the first lady. After we sat down, I had to read the menu. large print. Half way through the entries, I lifted my eyes and saw mom sitting there staring at me.
A nostalgic smile was on her Lips. ‘It was I who used to have to read the menu when you were young,’ She said.

‘Then it’s high time you relaxed and let me return the favor,’ I responded. During the dinner, we had an agreeable conversation, nothing extra-ordinary, but catching up on recent events of each other’s life. We talked so much that we missed the movie. As we arrived at her house later, She said, ‘I’ll go out with you again, but only if you let me invite you.’ I agreed.

The other woman

‘How was your dinner date?’ asked my wife when I got home.
‘Very Nice. Much more so than I could have Imagined,’ I answered.

A few days later, my mother died of a Massive Heart Attack. It happened so suddenly that I didn’t have time to do anything for her. Some time later, I received an envelope with a copy of a restaurant receipt from the same place mother and I had dined.

An Attached Note Said: ‘I paid this bill in advance. I wasn’t sure that I could be there;

But nevertheless, I paid for Two Plates One for You and the Other for Your Wife. You will never know what that night meant to me. I Love You, My Son.’

At that moment, I understood the Importance of saying in Time: ‘I LOVE YOU!’ and to give our loved ones the time that they deserve.

What kind of relationship do you have with your wife or husband?

What kind of relationship do you have with your spouse’s family?


Marry a wife or husband that loves your family like his/hers. Spend quality time together as a family

Nothing in Life is more important than God, your Family and Friends.

Give them the time they deserve, because these things cannot be put off till ‘Some Other Time.’

Do the needful now….

Please share some of your own stories with me by mail to coach@thecatalystng.com


The Catalyst, Lanre Olusola